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  addiction and it's effects

  by colorado5591 in

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  with the internet we have such easy and infinite access to pornography, that some find themselves or their partner "addicted" to it.

  how does this impact our sexual, emotional, and romantic relationships and how can the non-addicted partner cope with any feelings of deception and betrayal?

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  ballis- For me a lot of it has to do with attitude. I had to be real honest with myself about what happened in my failed relationships - let me make this perfectly clear "I HAD TO BE HONEST ABOUT WHAT I HAD CONTRIBUTED TO THE DEMISE OF THE RELATIONSHIP and/or WHETHER I SHOULD HAVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH THE PERSON IN THE FIRST PLACE". I had to check my expectations, explore what premises I was using to measure the quality of the relationship (ie, does he measure up to what my friends/family think I deserve) and then decide what things were really important for me to be happy in a relationship. I opted for the simple things, friendship, mutual respect and understanding, emotional support and frequent and outstanding sex .

  I'm very happy!
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  addiction and it's effects

  by colorado5591 in

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  with the internet we have such easy and infinite access to pornography, that some find themselves or their partner "addicted" to it.

  how does this impact our sexual, emotional, and romantic relationships and how can the non-addicted partner cope with any feelings of deception and betrayal?

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  Thanks ballistic ... it didn't take long for me to realize I was better off without him, now he can reminisce about the 'real thing' (dams).

  I used to feel the same way billygoat but it was only one symptom of deep seated insecurity for me. I had to let all that sh*t go just so I could let a man breathe (insecurity was my issue, I'm not saying that's the reason you don't like it). My current bf could care less about porn, stip clubs or any of that biz and he's perfectly content having one good woman to shower with affection .
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  addiction and it's effects

  by colorado5591 in

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  with the internet we have such easy and infinite access to pornography, that some find themselves or their partner "addicted" to it.

  how does this impact our sexual, emotional, and romantic relationships and how can the non-addicted partner cope with any feelings of deception and betrayal?

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  I had a bf who loved porn. We'd watch it together and he would point out what he liked about this female and that one ... it was all good. I even went to a gentlemen's club with him. Everything was fine until he got drunk one night and slept with his bm. It was all downhill after that but prior to, it made me feel really close to him because I felt comfortable and secure that we could have something like that out in the open (coming from a former closed-minded JW that's a huge step!). After the betrayal I thought maybe the porn contributed to the infidelity - but most likely it did not. He's just the type of person who likes to have a variety of women. He may claim one to be his 'main squeeze' but he'll always be on the lookout for a pinch hitter. Works for some people, but not for me.
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  Your boss is giving you a hard time.

  by hibiscusfire in

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  if your boss is giving you a hard time and belittling you what do you do...don't do?.

  what are your rights?.

  who in higher authority should you go to?.

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  It depends on how I feel about the job. I've left jobs that I didn't like for whatever reason and found something else. My current job is pretty cool but the new boss is a bit of a micro-manager and I'm not used to that. But what the hey - I'm only here for a paycheck, loving the job is gravy but mashed potatos are pretty good without it .
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  Role Models

  by hibiscusfire in

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  is/are there someone/ people you admire?

  celebrities - i love celine dion - because she can sing anything.

  relatives - my mother - because she works so hard.

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  Celebrities: I admire model Alek Wek - she comes across as very humble with a warm, loving spirit and gives back to her homeland. She seems like a real down to earth and grateful woman.

  Family: My Mom for retiring gracefully and enjoying her life.

  Friends: I admire anyone who is a good parent and model their 'attitude' towards rearing independant, well adjusted children to be productive members of society.

  Spiritually ... I am my own role model. No one can feel love for God for me.
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  Hack Yourself! You can live the life you want to live!

  by daystar in

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  this is an email that was sent a while back.

  i found in on this website.

  i think there is are some good ideas in it.

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  I'd love to read it ... but there's nothing there .
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  They Came at me at work.......

  by delilah in

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  there is a "sister" and her daughter, that come to visit different ones at my place of business.

  they usually come about 3 times a month, to read a scripture or a paragraph from a magazine, to a couple of people.

  they then say hello to me, and leave after making their wt and awake placements.

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  I don't want to be nasty, but I have a job to do. If they want to "encourage" me, then they are welcome to do it on THEIR time, not count the time in service.

  If that's the way you feel you should be able to tell them exactly that. JW women are taught and expected to be submissive - well that crap's over for us. We (myself included) need to be more assertive. I don't speak up about every little thing I find irritating, but I do tell people how I feel and why much, much more readily than I used to. Whether people always get the point is not the issue, I do it to make ME feel better. Then I'm not stewing over the situation because of what I DIDN'T say, or thinking of what I could have said.

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  New Field Service Method Announced

  by roybatty in

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  hey, it was in the weekly world news so it has to be true.

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  If they come down my street with a bullhorn I'll call the cops. Disturbing the peace and all that. I hope they do start using bullhorns. People will just think their crazy and laugh at them.

  They might have a shot in some urban commumities but if they went into the burbs around here they'd be asked to leave by the local deputies PRONTO! Anyhow ... I really don't believe anyone would do this. Come on now, don't they already seem crazy enough as it is?
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  Hadenuf is Recovering from Surgery, Give her some love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  by whyamihere in

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  everyone, hadenuf is out of surgery.

  mumsy had knee replacement.

  from what i know she is in alot of pain.

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  Bestest wishes for a speedy recovery hadenuf (((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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  New Field Service Method Announced

  by roybatty in

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  hey, it was in the weekly world news so it has to be true.

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  Kingdom Halls across the U.S. rejoiced at the directive issued by leading Witness elders last week.

  Yeah, right. I'm sure the already exasperated dubs were dancing in their seats over this one . They must be trying to weed out those not truly devoted to the GB. Prepare to be boarded ... they'll be coming here in droves!!!

  sweet tee